The difference between moving away and dying.

As the time of our departure slowly marched toward us, I began to notice changes in myself, and the way friends and family treat us. It did start to remind me of the way one feels after the death of a friend or loved one. With a little macabre humour, I’d like to outline a few of the similarities, but also, remind you of a few of the differences 😉


1. Increase in photograph taking prior to imminent departure – perhaps even hiring a professional.

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Thanks to Cori McMillan at Creative Haze Photography for these 🙂
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This is Kory, Jess, Mom, Dad, Dan and me. Grandma is just off camera, holding all our bags most likely 🙂
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The girls. In the centre, you have the driving force behind the photography session. We gave her a hard time, but I’m so glad to have these pictures now!

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2. Increase in reminiscing of times past.

3. Lots of crying, or long faces.

I stole this sad moment between Jess and Auntie Karen during our going away party. They’re really, really going to miss Dan.

4. Lots of long, hard looks at what is important, and deciding what you can take with you.

Apparently lots of stuff from my kitchen was really important to me. I regret nothing. Not. A. Thing.
Also my wardrobe. In addition to bringing four suitcases between us (Dan will be quick to point out, he had one, I had three) I also shipped a few boxes of clothes. And why not. I like them. They fit me. Why shouldn’t I bring them!?
And my art. Another important component of settling in I think 🙂


5. Giving away of the things of importance and personal value to your friends and family as tokens and keepsakes.

6. You become a little more poetic, circumspect and philosophical when talking about the actual day “it” is going to happen. “Yes, it will be difficult, but we’ll get through it”. “-insert Footprints poem here”.


1. There’s no Skype or FaceTime in Heaven (or Hell, or wherever or where not). Though come to think of it – that would be an amazing App – one that lets you talk to people in the hereafter. Google? Apple? Are you guys listening? Can someone work on this?

2. You can always go visit your moving away friends (us), and we can come back and visit you. To the best of my knowledge (I-was-sent-back-people notwithstanding), you can’t come and go from the afterlife as you please.  Though, again, that would be a nifty plane ride.

3. The person moving can always change his or her mind and come back. Again, not really an option with post-mortem-ers.

4. You actually can take things with you forward into your new life in a new country. Mercifully, you don’t arrive at the gates of Australia, naked, with only your passport in your hand. [Sidebar: I’m also not sure if you show up at the gates of heaven, naked with a passport in hand or not. I’ll update this post if I ever find our for sure].

5. You can track down the people you gave stuff to and demand it back. I personally think that would most likely strain your friendship, but it is definitely do-able.

6. Surprise comeback visits are welcome and enjoyable in the case of the living. Surprise comeback visits are terrifying and shocking in the case of the dead.

2 thoughts on “The difference between moving away and dying.”

  1. “Surprise comeback visits are terrifying and shocking in the case of the dead.” Laugh Out Loud (or Lots of Love, not quite sure which).

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